Thursday, November 26

A guide to Thanksgiving dinner

What to say when politics comes up between the turkey and the pie. Friendly replies, with receipts.

Every reply links to its source. How we source →

Before you sit down

A few house rules

The goal isn’t to win the argument. It’s to be the person they trust when the next thing comes up.

Lead with a question

Ask “Where did you hear that?” and really listen. People dig in when they feel cornered and open up when they feel heard.

Find what you agree on

Most families agree on more than they think: lower prices, honest leaders, safe communities. Start there.

Bring receipts, not insults

Every reply in this guide links to a court ruling, an official report, or straight news reporting. Facts travel further than zingers.

You don’t have to win tonight

Plant one seed, then pass the stuffing. Minds rarely change in one dinner, but they do change.

Main course

The big four

The claims you’re most likely to hear before the turkey is carved.

You might hear“Other countries are paying for the tariffs.”

You could say

“Actually, a New York Fed study found American companies and consumers paid about 90% of the cost of last year’s tariffs. The Tax Foundation put it at around $1,000 per household in 2025. The Supreme Court even struck a lot of them down.”

Receipts: CNN · CNBC · CNBC (Supreme Court)

You might hear“He’s draining the swamp.”

You could say

“His own financial disclosure shows more than a billion dollars in crypto income in his first year back, while his administration loosened the rules on crypto. His son-in-law’s fund runs on billions from Saudi Arabia, Qatar, and the UAE while he negotiates in the Middle East. That’s a funny kind of swamp-draining.”

Receipts: CNN · NPR · CNN (Kushner)

You might hear“He only hires the best people.”

You could say

“Then why does he keep firing them? By this summer, 27 Senate-confirmed officials had left his departments, compared with 11 at the same point in his first term. He fired his own attorney general and his homeland security secretary.”

You might hear“He’s tough on crime.”

You could say

“He pardoned about 1,500 people charged in the January 6 attack, including people convicted of assaulting police officers. And a jury found him guilty on 34 felony counts.”

Receipts: NPR · NPR (conviction)

Side dishes

Seconds, anyone?

For when the conversation keeps going.

You might hear“DOGE saved us billions.”

You could say

“The Government Accountability Office, Congress’s nonpartisan auditor, checked $110 billion in claimed savings and found the numbers were wrong or unsupported. One entry claimed savings on an $8 billion contract that was actually worth $8 million.”

Receipts: CNN · NPR

You might hear“At least he’s careful with our money.”

You could say

“His golf trips have cost taxpayers more than $101 million in travel and security this term. His administration asked Congress for $1 billion in security funding that includes his ballroom. And the Congressional Budget Office says a missile shield like his “Golden Dome” could cost $1.2 trillion.”

Receipts: HuffPost · CNN · CBO

You might hear“Say what you want, the man gets things built.”

You could say

“He had the Lincoln Memorial Reflecting Pool redone in “American flag blue,” a job that was supposed to take two weeks. After a botched installation, it still wasn’t finished months later. And he tore down the entire East Wing after saying his ballroom wouldn’t touch the existing building.”

Receipts: NPR · NPR (East Wing)

You might hear“RFK Jr. is making America healthy again.”

You could say

“He fired the CDC’s entire vaccine advisory panel, and a federal judge ruled the replacement panel wasn’t lawfully set up. Meanwhile, the country is dealing with its deadliest measles outbreak in more than 30 years.”

Receipts: PBS · CNN

You might hear“The Epstein files cleared him.”

You could say

“He fought for months to keep them sealed and only signed the law releasing them under pressure. The documents mention him more than a thousand times. Whatever you think they show, transparency shouldn’t have been that hard.”

Receipts: NPR · CNN

You might hear“The world respects us again.”

You could say

“Pew surveyed 36 countries this year. The median share with confidence in him was 23%, and it fell in 16 of the 24 countries they track over time. He also threatened tariffs on our NATO allies to pressure them over Greenland.”

You might hear“It’s all fake news.”

You could say

“A lot of this isn’t even reporting. It’s records: court rulings, inspector general reports, the Congressional Budget Office, and his own financial disclosures. You can read them yourself.”

Dessert

End on pie, not politics

Leave the door open

However it goes, finish on something you both care about, and thank them for the conversation. “I’m glad we can talk about this” goes a long way.